Two Best teachers.. Mentors & Mistakes.. Choosing a good Mentor Will definitely Save your time !!!

Mentors can be critical to the growth and success of your career or business.

Defined as a "wise and trusted counselor or teacher" , a mentor is a person who can guide you, help you, take you under his or her tutelage, and nurture your progress in the field.

Choosing a mentor who is a talented and experienced person in the field can be beneficial for you. This is not only because he or she can teach you theory and technique, but having had real life experiences, he or she can prepare you for real-world situations and perhaps even help you find the right opportunities.

Knowing the right people saves you time in your search for success.

How to Find a good mentor ?

To find a mentor on your own, first identify someone you admire and respect. You can choose someone from your own network or outside it -- or both.. Some people choose more experienced mentors at a high organisational level so that they, too, can aspire to the top of the ladder.

Your mentor is someone you probably have good chemistry with who will share stories with you about his or her own climb to success.

It is a good idea to choose someone who shares your values and has a positive attitude.

A mentor is someone who is not afraid to criticise constructively. He should be someone with whom you can talk freely with about your business or career issues.

A mentor is often in a position you would like to be in and has the connections to guide you to a similar position. He or she can introduce you to the movers and shakers in the industry.

A mentor has good listening skills and is easy to communicate with.

Mentors possess emotional intelligence, intuition, a quest to continue learning, and a desire to bring about change.

Ideally, a mentor should be more of a coach than adviser -- one who makes you decide by offering intelligent suggestions and choices, rather than telling you what to do.

 How to make your mentor-mentee relationship work

A mentor can be your role model, for as long as you are comfortable with the image in which your mentor is molding you to become like him/her or better.

Openness, honesty, realistic expectations, accountability, and ability to admit mistakes and failures make for a good relationship.

Set boundaries relating to confidentiality and time commitments.

Do not overburden your mentor by demanding too much attention from him or her, or becoming overly dependent.

The relationship is especially productive when the mentor believes he or she can learn from you, and thus the relationship becomes mutually beneficial.

Express that you value and appreciate your mentor's guidance. The feeling of being needed and making a difference in a protégé's life will often be a rewarding payoff for the mentor, but don't be afraid to supplement that appreciation with a token gift, flowers, or by picking up the bill when you share a meal. Sometimes a simple note is enough to praise your mentor for his or her contribution to your professional growth.

Until then.
Wishing For Your Success,

Hakim Jamali

YOU too can have a charismatic personality...

Have you noticed there are some people who just light up any room the moment they enter? Their sheer presence can draw attention from a busy crowd even before uttering a word.

Someone who possesses this kind of charismatic quality is often said to have an ‘aura’ or a ‘presence’.

Becoming successful always involves other people. They could be your clients, or prospects or people you network with. But whoever they may be, the greater your charisma, the easier it is for you to quickly form long-lasting relationships. Remember, the very same people could be the ones who will spread the word about you.

How can you enhance your charisma?

Your Body Language

Your body sends out thousand of signals every minute, constantly giving out your thoughts and feelings for everyone to read.

Your body language should be in tune with what you are saying. For example, if you are talking about something that is happy or joyful, this should be reflected in your movement and expression. Your body language should always match and compliment your theme.

Your Tone of Voice

Your tone of voice is more important than you realise. It can express and reflect your inner confidence and inspire others to follow you. The degree of inner confidence projected through your tone of voice also sets the mood and atmosphere.

This important feature of everyday speech is so powerful that it can actually drive you to successful heights.

Your Communication Skills

Charismatic people are extremely clever in their communication skills by being able to make other people feel more important or more valuable.

One of the qualities of being charismatic is all about making the other person feel better, more valuable and happier. You can achieve this to the extent that other people will start to feel better each time they see you, even from a distance.

Your Passion

Charismatic people are passionate people.

Without it, your charisma will never shine and this will be reflected back to your audience. Tinker with your mind by strengthening your reasons for your goals and the action you need to take. You may have heard the popular phrase “talk is cheap…actions speak louder than words”.  In the case of being charismatic, this is very true.

Your Confidence

People are naturally attracted to those people who exude a sense of self-confidence. Those with charisma have an intense belief in themselves and in what they are doing. Your level of self-confidence is often projected in your courage and your eagerness to do whatever is necessary to achieve a goal that you believe in.

Gradually apply the above tips each day for a boost of positive thinking that will help you move towards your charisma and personal power goals!

Suggestions, comments and queries are most welcomed.

Until then.
Wishing For Your Success
Hakim Jamali